When Men are sick they are Babies, They want you to cater to them and sit with them because they don't feel good. So Why does it irritate me so? Is it because I'm not treated that way when I am sick, I'll have a mess to clean up when I'm well, maybe I'm just jealous that he is getting attention and I'm not, or is there really something about men that when they feel physically weak, they act mentally weak?
When I am sick, no one caters to me, but, I also don't ask for anyone to cater to me sick or well. I'm independent, are other wives like that too? I'm good to just lye in my misery, and want to just be left alone. I only wish I didn't have to worry about the mess that is made while I'm not there to keep it at bay.
I guess I sometimes feel that If I rest when sick, then there will be too much work to do when I'm better that I will have to rent a front-loader to shovel all the clutter that accumulates, while I'm ill. I push myself even harder so that i don't get overwhelmed when well.I cannot help to think that no one cares enough to pick up the slack so i don't have to push myself. I want to know someone cares about helping me out.
Helping me out leaves me with the knowledge that I can depend on someone else. I don't think that I should have to ask for someone to be attentive to my needs, we should strive to help one another. but sometimes i feel like I am the only one that is looking out for the other. Maybe that is why when he is sick, i get irritated, the fact that he isn't giving me attention, like the rest of the time, and I realize sick or well , I get disregarded. It is just when I can't ask for help, because he is too weak physically, that I get mad that I never ask for help and if I don't ask, then I don't get it.
So that makes me wonder, "why do men act weak when they are sick?" Is it because it reminds him of when he was cared for by his mother? Is it that I'm not giving him enough attention when w4ell, that they use sympathy to get extra? I think maybe it is a combination of things.
I think most relationships are complex. And so, the answer to this question is yet to come.
